Top Ten Things I Like/Dislike When it Comes to Romances in Books

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Occasionally, I like to curl up with a cup of tea and a good love story. Pride and Prejudice and Jane Eyre are among my all-time favourite books. And I have very definite views on what I personally like and don’t like to see when I read a romance. This week I’m linking up with The Broke and The Bookish’s Top Ten Tuesday feature, which is all about what we do, or don’t, like when it comes to bookish romances.

Things I Like:

Humour: I love it when people in a relationship have a great sense of humour. I’d much rather read about a fun romance where the partners joke around sometimes and have fun rather than one that takes itself way too seriously. Besides, if things get too awkward for me, I can always skip to the jokes.

People growing into love: I’m thinking Pride and Prejudice style here, where people slowly learn to see the good side and eventually fall in love. A lot of books I’ve seen have people jump straight from hate to love, but the romances I like best are the ones that take the process slow and let it take its time.

Romances that add to the plot: Some romances are so well woven into a plot that the whole thing would fall apart if you took it away. And some just feel tacked on. If there must be a romance in the book, I would much rather it be one that ties into the plot, motivates characters and helps them grow so that they can overcome the obstacles in their path. Then you’ve got my attention.

Sensible people: So many silly problems would be avoided in romances if people were just a little more sensible and could see that dating this person is a mistake, or that it’s not polite to try and steal someone else’s boyfriend. Sensible people can have love stories too. And I find them to be the most fun because then the plot has to be more creative.

Friendship: Nothing puts me off a romantic relationship quicker than it being all about the kissing thing. There’s more to life than that. Give me a romance where the characters can respect each other, be friends as well as partners, and where they help each other through the hard times as well as the good ones.

Things I Dislike:

Romances taking over: Some books are romances. Some books have a romance attached to the plot. And some books are romances that have cannibalized the real plot. When the book is supposed to be about a desperate quest to stop a dark lord before he destroys the world, I don’t really want my plot to be bogged down by chapter after chapter of romantic angst.

Love triangles: I get why love triangles are popular. There’s so much opportunity for anxiety and indecision about which boy to choose. But really, there are so many other obstacles in the path of true love that you could use rather than the cliché love triangle, when in most cases it seems like the girl doesn’t actually love other of the boys anyway.

Awkward details: This is very much a matter of personal choice, but I don’t particularly enjoy reading about every kiss in detail. I can handle one here or there, no problem. But once you have a kissy scene with a romantic speech every other chapter and you’d got me cringing and flipping pages in a hurry to find where the book gets good again.

Lack of communication: Misunderstandings are awesome. They cause tension and problems and a bit of excitement to the book. But when it comes to stupid misunderstandings that could be solved by actually, heavens forbid, talking to the other person, I am left shaking my head at the stupidity of it all. Misunderstanding happen, but do they all have to be the same stupid mistakes over and over again?

Young love: Young relationships happen, true. But when I read about a romance between people of thirteen or fourteen, I can’t help but cringe. To me, that is far too young an age to be getting into a serious relation such as a romance entails. I prefer my romances to be about people who are likely to be able to have a happily ever after sometime soon

And there you have it. Ten things I like/dislike when it comes to romances in books. Now it’s your turn. What is your favourite thing to see in a romance? Least favourite? Are you participating in Top Ten Tuesday? Link me to your posts!

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  1. Love triangles can be 2 girls to 1 boy as well! Although that's totally unusual....I wonder why?!! But I do agree that love-triangles seem underdeveloped these days and, um, I kind of question if ANYONE in the triangle really loves each other properly. 0.0 Lack of communication sends me craaaaazy. GRAHHH! why can't people just talk?!

    I always get so involved in a book where there's witty banter between love-interests though. x) Okay! I love witty banter, period. If something is funny, I'm so down for it. XD

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    1. True that. It's really weird how the typical love triangle is always 1 girl to 2 boys and not the other way around. Wouldn't it be interesting to see someone flip that on its head? I think I need to search for a book like that, see how that changed the whole love triangle thing up. Developed love triangles are so much better though.

      Me too. My favourite characters are pretty much always the really funny ones. They're witty like I wish I could be.

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  2. YES. Yes, yes, yes. Especially yes to sensible people. Sometimes you just want to shake that MC - "Why don't you THINK?!"

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    1. That's exactly the way I think about it. Like, why is it so hard to just stop and think about the logic of what you're doing for once? Sometimes you just want someone who thinks about whether things are a good idea or not.

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  3. Love triangles are absolutely annoying, and one of the things I dislike in a lot of YA books. Although I do love when people do learn to fall in love. I just finished Much Ado About Nothing for school, and Beatrice and Benedick falling in love-- I was fangirling and screaming, "OTP! OTP!" Is it weird to fan girl and make up shipping names for pairings in Shakespeare's works? Gosh, I'm such a dork. >.<

    xoxo Morning

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    1. Much Ado About Nothing is pretty much my idea of a perfect romance. Hating each other with snarky banter at the beginning, slowly falling in love and working together for a common interest with a sense of betrayal toward the end. Shakespeare has some illogical romances in his less famous plays, but Much Ado About Nothing is one of the best I've read. I don't see anything wrong with fangirling over pairings in Shakespeare. You can't go wrong with the classics.

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  4. GAH. Third time I've had to comment because the comments reload separately than the page. BASICALLY I totally agree with your likes and the dislikes as well. I don't mind love triangles much at all, but young romance does bug me quite a bit. Like, one of my teachers married her high school sweetheart, but beyond that, most people I know met and were married as adults... So... WHY TEEN ROMANCE WHY.

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    1. I'm so sorry you had trouble commenting. Thanks for persevering anyway. I always love to get a comment from you. Young romance is just so unrealistic, isn't it? Like they go on and one about this guy being their one true love, and they're what, sixteen? You don't have to find your husband in high school. there's a lot of life left to live after school is finished. I will admit, my parents met in high school, but at the end rather than early teens. It's just this whole mentality of either super young teens getting serious about dating, or teens in general thinking that their high school sweetheart is destined to be their one true love. Totally not realistic.

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  5. OK! So I don't mind some romance, but I hate certain things. One of those things is the awkward details. Do we really need to know what they tasted of? What they felt like? Is it really necessary? It seems so now a days, but I don't see why. Another thing I hate is when instead I saying, 'I touched his skin' they say 'I touched his naked skin'. That makes me so uncomfortable. Even if it's just his naked neck! Seriously, why do you need to add that word?

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    1. Oh those awkward details. I wonder if they're all strictly necessary sometimes. But you're totally right about the word 'naked'. Add that to a romantic moment and things start to sound inappropriate very quickly. It's just got so many negative connotations for me. Can we just say she touched his skin without implying a lack of clothes? Otherwise, please clothe that naked neck!

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  6. Hi, I am Neal I've reading your blog for a while never commented though before.. :P
    Is it some sort of topic of the week?I've read so many posts on this today :P
    All so interesting and funny in their own way :D
    Love triangles can be so annoying..so can be self assuming people with lack of communication..I so like that first point in dislike list about love thing taking over the main plot..that's what I like about Harry Potter..Harry and Ginny thing doesn't take over the Harry and Voldemort storyline :D

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    1. Hi Neal, I'm so glad you finally took the plunge and commented on my blog. I love chatting to my readers. It's great when authors manage to write a romance inside a book that doesn't take over when it's not in the romance genre. It happens way too often in my experience. Lack of communication is a pet peeve of mine. Why not just say something if you think something's wrong? There are so many other ways to make problems for a romantic couple than using silly problems that could be fixed by a good chat. Thanks for stopping to comment!

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  7. My acting teacher is in the production of pride and prejudice right now! It's such a lovely story! I personally LOVE the book/movie Emma by Jane Austin, which is somewhat similar!
    Mae :)
    superswankified.blogspot.com

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    1. Emma is one of my favourite Jane Austen books! Though my personal favourite is Persuasion. Pride and Prejudice is amazing too. It would be so cool to be in a production of that. Thanks for commenting!

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  8. My acting teacher is in the production of pride and prejudice right now! It's such a lovely story! I personally LOVE the book/movie Emma by Jane Austin, which is somewhat similar!
    Mae :)
    superswankified.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks for visiting Lauren. I'm glad you agree.

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    1. I totally agree. It's one of the best love stories ever. Thanks for stopping by!

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  11. Love this list!!!! I changed mine up a bit check it out :) http://bookbabble.weebly.com/blog/top-ten-tuesday2

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  12. Thanks for stopping by and reading my list Elizabeth!

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  13. Love triangles are so annoying. But I also hate when the author describes the kissing and stuff. I don't mind the kissing, but when they describe it, that's a bit too much. To be honest, it's uncomfortable. This was an awesome post, I really enjoyed it!

    ~Noor

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    1. Oh I totally agree. When they add all the little details of what they tasted like and what it felt like and all those things, I curl up in a little corner in my mind cringing and wishing it would go away. Personally, I think it's possible to write a good kissing scene where you don't have to go into quite such vivid detail. But then, some people might actually enjoy that!

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